The essay titled "What is Love? Two Simple Binaries That Help Us Love Better" explores the fundamental gap in our understanding of how love works. Kelly Wendorf shares how love is not just a warm felt sense of emotion, but it requires that we act in a way that feels like love to the other person. Two mindsets are discussed in the essay: knower/learner and victim/player. The knower mindset believes you know all you need to know to address a situation, whereas the learner mindset is willing to admit ignorance and be influenced. The victim mindset focuses on things you can't influence, whereas the player mindset takes responsibility for your contributions to a situation and asks, "what can I do?" In relationships, taking a player and learner mindset is crucial. The essay concludes by challenging readers to reflect on the impact of how they express their love and to tell others how they can better show up for them. Overall, the essay offers practical tips and mindsets to improve how we love and connect with others.

The essay titled "Decolonizing Our Bodies to Liberate Intelligence" by Kelly Wendorf explores the concept of decolonizing the way we perceive and relate to our bodies. Wendorf highlights how historically, our bodies have been viewed as separate from the mind and spirit, leading to the disconnection between our physical selves and the intelligence they possess. By reclaiming and reinhabiting our bodies, we can access a wealth of wisdom and intuition that can positively impact our relationships, leadership abilities, emotional well-being, and sense of belonging. The essay emphasizes the importance of recognizing and healing the individual and collective experiences of separation from our bodies caused by trauma, societal messages, and cultural influences. The essay suggests practices such as paying attention to our body's signals and practicing present-moment awareness as ways to reestablish a deeper connection between mind, body, and spirit. Emphasizing that embodiment is a continuous journey, the essay encourages individuals to explore their own path to remembering and reclaiming their bodies, thereby empowering themselves and inviting others to do the same.

When I lived in Australia, I owned a home situated on a lazy river that snaked through the palm groves and eventually poured out to the Pacific Ocean. Next door lived an elderly couple from the UK named Jim and Mary whom my children adopted as their grandparents. Our yards shared the same fence, the gate always open so we could walk back and forth to each other’s front porch. Most evenings we would sit on their veranda and share stories. Jim had served in the British Navy––an anchor aptly tattooed on his forearm––and the couple were avid travelers, so they had many tales of faraway exotic lands, as well as stories of their adventures of living on a barge and traveling the canal systems near London.

In our domesticated world where creature comforts abound such as air conditioning, instant messaging, fast food and same-day delivery, we forget this lesson. We become so accustomed to being comfortable, that we equate comfort with safety.

In 1992 American author and relationship counselor wrote the seminal book Men Are from Mars, Women are from Venus. It was one of the first books of its kind that claimed to highlight the fundamental psychological differences between the genders. Spending 121 weeks on the bestseller list, its central metaphor became a part of popular culture, spawning stand up comedy material, sitcom themes, apparel lines, fragrances, even his-and-hers salad dressings.

For many good reasons, we’ve come to associate excellence, virtue, and reliability with sticking it out at any cost.

In the Godfather: Part II the iconic villain Michael Corleone, don of an Italian Mafia family says, “Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer.”

A good apology builds trust and resilience, and helps the hurt or disappointed party feel validated and seen. It liberates them from obsessing about their hurt for days and nights. It prevents the formation of unspoken but corrosive rifts. It creates an interpersonal culture of accountability and maturity.

Many misguided concepts and ideas persist around what it means to have an emotionally intelligent team, or what it means to apply EQ practices within an organization, relegating EQ to the beguiling yet impractical “touchy-feely” domain. In part, these concepts endure because not much has been done to correct this thinking, but also because so many consulting firms that teach EQ to companies don’t understand the underlying basis of EQ, nor practice it internally. In other words, they don’t walk their talk. Providers and companies often succumb to the ‘check that box’ mentality, lightly brushing on superficial ideologies that do little to change the culture of an organization.

I’ve been withholding the truth from you. I thought that things would change and that I wouldn’t need to mention it to you, but it’s been months now and nothing has shifted.

What happens when you think of the word power? Does it grate against your inner sensibilities? Does it conjure images of domination or force? Or does it inspire you, and ignite a sense of possibility? Power is a word that at its best evokes ambivalence. On one hand, the power of the ocean awakens and stimulates. On the other hand, the power of a fascist regime induces terror.

As a coach I learned that if I wanted to ensure long-term, measurable, and meaningful change for my clients, I had to provide experiential processes and opportunities for them. These processes allow for the body to kinesthetically process the cognitive understandings that are arising and translate them into neurological shifts. That is when behaviors change and where new possibilities emerge. 

But they aren’t. 

What is right relationship? Right relationship means that the relationship we are in (with a living being, a place, a project, or an event) is organized around us in a way that contributes to wholeness and is guided by integrity and our values. When we are in right relationship to another, the energy around that relationship feels clean.

Are you constantly challenged by an inability to be as assertive and direct as you would like to be? Do people say you are strong and opinionated but deep down inside you know there is so much more authenticity that the world is not seeing?

The toppling of a democracy is systematically engineered in the background for decades, subtly without much ado. Then, without warning, suddenly people are fleeing to their homes to switch on the televisions. Like the proverbial frog who boils to death in slowly warming water, no one sees it coming.

The Supreme Court’s maneuver to overturn Roe v. Wade is not about saving the lives of babies, or preserving family values, or upholding Christian moral beliefs. If it were, then its architects would be staunch advocates of a plethora of pro-infant, pro-mother, pro-family and pro-child initiatives. They would be ensuring that all these unborn lives would not only be saved but have a safe environment in which to thrive. 

But they aren’t. 

May we together create a world that is unbullied—a world where we no longer normalize internal unkindness and belligerence. Where are hearts are free to experience joy, where our minds are at last emancipated from tyranny. 

What would happen to America if it did one simple yet seismic shift, and put women first as a policy priority ensuring true equality?

It is miraculous that there is a possibility to end that cycle and create the life you always deserved. How do you want to spend your one wild and free life?

I believe all humans are outrageously creative. And every one of us needs to learn to be ok in the discomfort of resistance so that our genius can emerge. We need to be willing to engage in sacred warfare each and every day.