When I was a child of about 11 years old, I had my first encounter with a person, and by extension, a system that converts power into sanctioned predation, feeding on others to sustain its own sickness.

I was swimming alone in our backyard pool, the way kids do when the warm and outstretched days of summer make them come alive. I was a strong swimmer, so my parents trusted me with access to the pool when they were away from the house. He came through the gate without knocking—he never needed permission…

This fall, we were shown how powerful and necessary crazy can be. A parade of pro-democracy inflatable animals and cartoon characters danced, twirled, hopped, and spun across US cities and towns to protest state-sanctioned violence and authoritarianism. The rallies hosted a funhouse Noah's Ark of frogs, pandas, koalas, T-Rexes, sharks, unicorns, and lobsters, to name but a few. Taking a page from the protest playbook in Portland, Americans showed up in inflatable animal costumes and played to the absurd: holding hands in song, knitting scarves, and shaking their puffy booties to drumbeats…

The day my mother went into the emergency room last winter changed everything. After decades of good health, her 89 year-old body took a turn. A trip to the emergency room revealed severe peripheral arteriosclerosis. We drove home later that night in silence. “What’s that mean?” she suddenly asked me as if abruptly awakening from a dream. “It means all of your veins are blocked up,” I said, my eyes riveted on the dark highway. “Will it get better?” she asked hopefully. My fists clenched the steering wheel. “No, Mom. No…it won’t,” I replied…

Due to our conditioning, modern humans strive to prevent disruption at all costs. We control outcomes and eliminate risk. We avoid failure. We freak out in the face of unsettling change. We tell ourselves stories about what it all means. However, these approaches often put us at odds with the natural momentum that would assist us in evolving as a society and as a species. Additionally, it contributes to even more suffering…

Nature teaches us how to form resilient and successful transformative revolutions. It models for us an ecosystem made up of many diverse and different roles designed to dismantle the old and bring in the new. Taking up placards and marching in protests is just one role, but there are dozens of others. A thriving ecosystem of resistance includes not only the visible and more audible ones out front but also the quiet, invisible ones in the background and everything in between. Where are you most resourced to survive and be effective in this pivotal chapter in human history? What is your part to play?

In 1903 a Hungarian child-prodigy named Jon von Neumann was born to a wealthy Jewish family in Budapest. At six Jon could divide two eight-digit numbers in his head and converse in ancient Greek. By adulthood, he had made significant contributions to quantum mechanics and the development of the modern computer. Ultimately he worked on the Manhattan Project, contributing to the design of the atomic bomb. 

We’re living in a time of unrelenting velocity—news alerts ping our phones like a war drum, headlines roll in faster than we can process, and social feeds churn with heartbreak and urgency.

Amidst this storm, the most radical act might be this: to care for yourself with deep, grounded intention.

When we are rested, nourished, and grounded, we become steadier agents of change—more able to show up for our communities, our causes, and our conscience. The revolution, it turns out, begins in the kitchen, on the yoga mat, and under the covers.

This is a great time to reinvent and reinvigorate some of our wellbeing routines, not as a luxury, but as a revolutionary strategy. I thought to share with you some frameworks and habits that have been deeply supporting me.

Recently I stumbled upon an Instagram post that read: "I have decided to delete all social media for my business. As a business owner, I realized that every time I post, I am calling people into a toxic place." The truth of this hit me hard. I was forced to confront a profound incongruence in my life—and in my business.

Here we are in the spring of 2025…in an era where extreme wealth has become a hall of mirrors—distorting truth, unraveling values, and undoing the fabric of a once-great nation. 

In the highest offices of power, billionaires play with democracy like it’s a toy, insulated by privilege, delusion, and a hunger that devours but can never be satisfied. And yet—this moment offers an unexpected gift: a call to remember what cannot be taken from us.

In stark contrast to the chaos, another invitation waits quietly.

I confess I have been in a state of paralysis since January. But slowly, as I find the courage to not look away from the videos displaying the unchecked power of bullies, my rage kindles an awakening. It’s happening. This is not a drill. We are in a constitutional crisis.

Every now and again, you discover a term that its mere appearance, changes everything. One of those terms is invisible labor. It describes the quiet mental, emotional, and interpersonal work required to keep a relationship, office, or household humming. There is no union for invisible labor, no retirement plan, no promotion, or golden parachutes.

My partner, Andrew (who is also a coach), and I developed a weekly practice that we call our “Huddle”. We’ve been doing it for a couple of years now, refining it and revising it over time, and have discovered that it is a powerful way to keep our relationship healthy and vibrant. We designed the six-step process to evoke some very specific qualities: empathy, attunement, honesty, courage, gratitude, accountability and vulnerability. Many of our couple friends and clients ask us for the Huddle recipe so they can implement it too and we’ve heard reports that they too find the practice a game-changer. So, I thought to share it with you here. 

I’ve been immersed in feminist spaces for a while now. Additionally, most of my clients are

women. In the 25+ years of listening closely to women’s hopes, fears, dreams, rage, grief, and ambitions, I’m discovering a powerful sea-change among women roiling just under the radar, beneath the surface of daily life, tucked quietly out of the crosshairs of conventional opposition.

What makes this wave distinct from the rest is how ubiquitous it is across sectors and dimensionsof modern life. 

Here are 10 ways she is rising…

The last time I ate a whole bag of Pepperidge Farm Cheddar Goldfish was the day after election day 2016.

Are you a good listener? If you ask any person, they will likely tell you they are good listeners. But if you ask the people in their life, you may get another story.

The 21 Wisdoms of EQUUS – the theories, disciplines, frameworks and sub-frameworks that inform our work.

When Amy enrolled in the Assertiveness for Life and Leadership course, she was mad. She was resentful, brittle, and exhausted.

Here at Buffalo Spirit Ranch we are learning how to reclaim, remediate and harvest all the water that comes to us. We live in the high desert, so water is precious. But the monsoon rains present another challenge: the skies open, and assault the land with more than it can handle.

Our wonderful and kind horse Cisco teaches us that the word “no” is a complete sentence. During his previous career as a talented stadium jumper, he had an unfortunate trailer accident that injured his hip. This left him insecure about jumping. When his trainer asked him to jump, Cisco expressed hesitation. When the trainer persisted, Cisco kept trying to convey his concern. In many ways, Cisco was saying, “No!”. But the trainer didn’t listen.

Back in the day, when I was a doormat…that is to say, when I diminished myself by minimizing my needs, silencing my voice, and numbing my feelings…I was not a very nice person. I thought I was being nice because I was caretaking everyone, pleasing others and performing to all kinds of heights. But in truth, because I was not able to take care of my own needs and honor my own ambitions, then I was not able to be truly honoring of others.